Life will keep throwing challenges at us and to keep living we will have to keep tackling them. Bad boss? No raise? Canceled bonus? Who doesn’t have them! Losing loved ones? Being betrayed by dear ones? Having to cut off? Everyone has to deal with these at some point.
But these are external situations that we believe we could face with the right kind of attitude. What about the issues that come from within? What about not being able to forget each and every time out heart was hurt? Emotional memories are your strongest memories and without closure, they could be your enemy from within.
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“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” –Dr. Seuss
Do not let yourself suffer over the memory of good things and people that are in the past. Do not let your memories bring you tears. Let them bring you laughter, strength, and courage. Let them help you move forward and make new memories instead of weighing you down.
“You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!” –Albus Dumbledore
Do not keep dwelling in the places you grew but focus on the place you wish to reach. No one is going to care what you are. You will be chosen everywhere for who you are and who you wish to be. So never let a bad past haunt you and discourage you from striving forth.
“Not even the wisest can see all ends.” –Gandalf
Do not dwell on things people say or the way people act. Do not play the blame game. Do not bring up reasons from the past to blame someone. Let them grow. They deserve to grow out of their past just as you do.
“Some wounds never truly heal, and bleed again at the slightest word.” –Ned Stark
Most abusers were victims once. Do not become like them. Do not live in the trauma of the act. Rise above it. Every person above the well could pull ten more out of it.
“In our world,” said Eustace, “a star is a huge ball of flaming gas.”
“Even in your world, my son, that is not what a star is, but only what it is made of.” –C. S. Lewis
What you know and what you remember need not be wrong. But there might be more to what you know. It never hurts to keep an open mind. No one is asking you to forget what you have learned, just do not think that your memory is infallible and absolute.
Your memory could hurt you as your enemy would. But it is not something to discard. Remember the good and the bad things equally and understand that each of your memories and experiences makes you who you are today.